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Hi there, we really hope you and your child enjoyed reading Oat the Goat.

We wrote this story because while children learn to get along with each other from a really young age, sometimes they need a little guidance from you. And Oat the Goat’s a fun way for you and your child to spend time together learning about the power of kindness.

Kindness is the exact opposite of bullying. Being bullied is awful, especially for kids, so it’s important you know what it is so you can look out for it. Bullying is unwanted and repeated behaviour by someone who uses their power to hurt another person (or people) on purpose. It’s a pretty stink situation.

Young children’s bullying often looks different from older kids’. Young kids experiment with different ways of behaving and sometimes this can look like bullying. They could say mean things, grab stuff, pull a funny face, push people or refuse to play with someone. While upsetting, this isn’t really bullying because it isn’t done on purpose to keep hurting another child. But, if they’re allowed to keep going, it could turn into a pattern of bullying.

The good news is that it’s easier to stop your child doing all that yucky stuff when they’re young. Young children usually change their behaviour depending on how their friends, parents, whānau, or teachers react. So now’s the time to help them learn how to be kind.

Reading Oat the Goat will help you talk to your child about making choices – should they laugh at someone? Ignore them? Stand up to them? Or include and be kind to them?

Oat the Goat shows that being kind always wins in the end. And that’s what we all want right?

Here’s some more tips to help you teach your child how to get on with people and talk about their feelings.

Talk to your child about things other people do and how they might feel.
Talk about and practise taking turns, sharing, helping, and looking after others to build positive behaviour.
Praise your child when you notice them making an effort to get on with other children. Help boost their kind behaviour with heaps of positive words. Eg. “Sharing the toy was very kind of you, Matu. Nice one.”
Being kind feels good! Recognise how it makes your child feel, e.g. “I can see it made you happy to let Pania join in.”
Chat about how their own experiences are like the characters in Oat the Goat. When children read stories that reflect the diverse world that they live in, they’re less likely to bully those who are different from them. Ask questions like: “Have you ever felt like little green glow worm? Or the sheep? How did it make you feel? What did you do? And what do you think you could do differently next time?” This can help young children practise what they might do in a real-life situation.
Point out the positive behaviour in Oat the Goat, as well as the bad behaviour, and relate that to your life. For instance, can your child think of a time when they included someone in a game, just like when Oat the Goat was kind and said “Come hang with us, little worm.”
Talk about how everyone is different and how that’s great, since our differences make us special. Your child will get on with other kids better when they understand, appreciate and respect them.
Be a positive role model of what you would like your child to do.
Read the book over and over again. Learning new things takes time and lots of practice so try to share at least one story book moment with your child every day.

More Information

What to do if you need more support and want to talk to someone about bullying

If your child is experiencing bullying behaviour at school, contact your school about it.

Tips about how to talk to your school

Bullying Free NZ website

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Tēnā koe. Ko te tūmanako i pārekareka tā kōrua ko tāu tamaiti pānui i te pūrākau o Oti te Nanekoti.

Ka ako te tamaiti ki ngā tikanga o te whakawhanaungatanga i a rātou e kōhungahunga ana, heoi me āta ārahi tonu rātou i ētahi wā. Koirā te kaupapa o Oti te Nanekoti, he whakakotahi i a kōrua ko tāu tamaiti ki te ako mō te aroha ki te tangata.

Ko te ngākau māhaki te tauaro o te whakaweti tangata. He āhuatanga weriweri te whakaweti tangata, mātua hoki mō te hunga tamariki, nō reira me mōhio koe ki ngā tohu. He mahi whakatohetohe te whakaweti tangata, ka rite tonu te kitea i te tangata ka whai ki te pēhi i te mana o tētahi atu. He āhuatanga maninohea.

He rerekē te āhua o te whakaweti a te kōhungahunga i ō te taiohi. Ko tā te kōhungahunga he wheako, nā reira tērā ngā whanonga hē ka whakamātauria e te tamaiti ka pōhēhētia pea he mahi whakaweti: Ko te kōrero hahani, te kapo taputapu, te whakatoi, te peipei tangata, te whakatuturi rānei i ngā mahi tākaro. Ahakoa te pāmamae ka pā pea ki ngā hoa tākaro, kāhore ēnei whanonga i pū ake i te hiahia o te tamaiti ki te whakamamae i tētahi atu, heoi ki te tukuna noatia kia tipu i roto i a ia, ko te whakaweti tangata pea te hua.

Ko te mea nui ka taea ēnei whanonga te haukoti i te wā e kōhungahunga tonu ana te tamaiti. Ka whanake ngā whanonga o te tamaiti i runga anō i ngā uruparenga a ōna hoa, mātua, whānaunga, kaiako anō hoki. Nō reira koinei te wā pai ki te whakatō atu i ngā uaratanga o te ngākau māhaki me te aroha ki roto i a rātou.

Mā te pānui i te pūrākau o Oti te Nanekoti e āwhina ai kōrua ko tāu tamaiti ki te whiriwhiri ara – mēnā me kata, me whakatuturi, me tū whakahē atu, me whakararata rānei.

Ko te whāinga o Oti te Nanekoti ko te whakamārama i te hua o te aroha ki te tangata. Koinā te tino wawata, nē?

Anei ētahi tohutohu hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakaako i tāu tamaiti me pēhea te whakararata tangata, me pēhea hoki te kōrero i ōu kare ā-roto.

Me kōrero kōrua ko tāu tamaiti e pā ana ki ngā mahi a tētahi atu, ā, he aha anō ngā whakaaro mō taua mahi rā.
Me wānanga, me whakatauira atu anō hoki i te manaaki tangata, i te whakahoahoa, i te āwhina a tētahi i tētahi ki ngā tamariki.
Me whakawhētai i te tamaiti ki te āwhina rātou i ētahi atu. Taunakitia taua ākinga rā ki te mihi tautoko, “Kātahi ko te tamaiti ngākau māhaki ko koe, e Matu, he kaha nōu ki te whakahoahoa i āu taonga tākaro.”
He hua pai te ngākau māhaki! Whakanuia tēnei karenga ā-roto, hei tauira, “I kite au i tō koa i te piringa mai o Pānia.”
Kōrerotia ngā wheako a ngā tamariki ānō nei he wheakoranga nā te hunga o roto tonu i te pūrākau o Oti te Nanekoti. Ki te pānui rātou mō tētahi ao he rite nei ētahi o ōna āhuatanga ki ō ētahi nō tōna ake ao, ka uaua ake tana toro ki ngā mahi whakaweti i te hunga rerekē. Me pēnei tō ui i a rātou, “Kua pēnā tō mokemoke ki tō Hana Motuhake mokemoke? Pēhea a hipi? I pēhea rānei ō whakaaro i tēna? I aha koe i muri atu? Me aha ki te pā mai anō tēnā tūāhuatanga?” Mā konei e whai wāhi ai ngā tamariki ki te wānanga i ngā ara hei whiriwhiri māna.
Me tohu, me whakanui anō hoki ngā whanonga tika i roto i Oti te Nanekoti. Me tohu anō hoki ngā whanonga hē, kātahi ka kimi i ngā ritenga i roto i te ao o te tamaiti. Hei tauira pea, me whakahoki ngā whakaaro o tāu tamaiti ki tētahi wā i pōhiri atu ai ia ki tētahi atu tamaiti, pērā i tā Oti pōhiri ki a Hana Motuhake, “Me haere mai hoki koe.”
Me kōrero mō te rerekē o ia tangata me te whakahirahira o tēnā āhuatanga, inā hoki mā reira tātou e kīia ai he tangata motuhake. Mō tāu tamaiti, ka māmā ake tōna whakararata i te tangata mēnā kei te aro ia ki ngā āhuatanga o taua tangata i roto i te ngākau māhaki.
Māu anō ēnei uaratanga, ēnei whanonga anō hoki e whakatauira atu ki tāu tamaiti.
Me hokihoki tonu ki te pānui i te pūrākau. Mā te tōai, te parakatihi, te whakatinana e tangata whenua ai ngā akoranga, nō reira me ruku kōrua ko tāu tamaiti kia kotahi te pūrākau ia rā.

Hei āpititanga

Me aha ki te hiahia āwhina anō koe, ā, kei te hiahia hoki koe ki te kōrero ki tētahi atu mō te mahi whakaweti

Mēnā kei te whakawetingia tāu tamaiti ki te kura, whakapā atu ki te kura.

He tohutohu e pā ana ki te kōrero ki ngā mana whakahaere o te kura

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